“The Ideal Woman”… what does that even mean? Society often tells us that the ideal woman absolutely must look flawless at all times, be in a relationship with the perfect guy, and have an abundance of money in order to be satisfied. There are thousands of girls on this earth that are constantly transforming themselves into striving to be the ideal woman because, they consistently don’t feel enough. Unfortunately, these women never get to where they desire to be because, becoming the ideal woman genuinely isn’t possible. To me, this is by far the most heartbreaking aspect of society I see today.
To be a woman is the most incredable gift. We have more opportunities today than ever before in history, we can raise up our next generation to make a difference in the world, we can take charge of our own education and we can work in practically any field of employment imagined. Yet, at the same time there are thousands of women every day that take on our society’s mindset and allow themselves to feel inadequate, insignificant, worthless, and not enough. The blunt truth is, we will never be enough for this world. BUT… the actual truth says, you are enough to God. When we place our worth in God we will always be enough.
“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” -1 Peter 3: 3-4
To contradict society’s image of the ideal woman I want you to know first and foremost, that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder you gorgeous girl! Please believe that and strive to live this truth out rather than taking on the mindset that you are not enough. Every day you are given the choice to either 1) wake up and SLAY your beautiful self by knowing your worth is in Christ alone, or to 2) fall into the expections society puts on you and never ultimately be satisfied. The choice is your own to make. Arguably, somedays this decision will be harder to make than others, but just remember, comparison is –and always has been– the theif of joy, pretty girl.
To “look flawless at all times” is rather difficult to do when everyone has a different perspective on flawlessness anyway… Your beauty is not determined by what anyone else says. You are NOT a number on a scale, a score on an exam, or the size of your homecoming dress. You are a creation of God, a loved sister, daughter, and friend that means more than you can imagine to those who love you. Darling, you are enough. Flawlessness and society’s image of beauty is heavily overrated. Therefore, if you want to go to class without putting makeup on, do it; if you would rather wear sweatpants today, wear them; if you want to eat ice cream for dinner, by all means eat it all… you go girl! Life is too short to worry about everyone else’s opinions. The most powerful thing a woman can do is be confident in herself, her capabilities, and her interactions. Believe you’re beautiful; believe in yourself.
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you” -Song of Solomon 4:7
Those that know me know how passionate I am against the next criteria of, being in a relationship with “the perfect guy”… but that’s a story for a different time. Beautiful girl, please understand that you DO NOT need a boy to make you happy. As a matter of fact, you will never be satisfied in any relationship until you learn how to fall in love with both God and yourself. Only in God’s timing and perfect plan alone will he bring the right man into your life. If we force ourselves into a relationship less than God’s best everyone ends up getting hurt. Our society tells us that we NEED a man to be happy or worth anything, and that singleness is truly frowned upon. Our heavenly father would actually proclaim quite the opposite, as we are shown throughout countless examples in the bible. Singleness is truly such a gift from God. It’s an individualized time to grow in your relationship with God before he brings your forever groom into your life (if that is ultimately his plan for your life). Don’t get me wrong, marriage and relationships are not a bad thing– in fact I personally am very excited to get married– but, we must go into any potiental relationship with strong motives to build each other up in Christ; rather than with just casual-worldly relationship intentions.
The final leg of society’s view of an ideal woman is an act of comparison we often participate in without even realizing it. The concept of materialism involves revolving around an abundance of money in an effort to fill the never-ending need for satisfaction in our hearts. As we all know, the age-old myth of striving to have money fulfill your happiness, fails time and time again, please don’t let yourself fall into that trap. You do not need to have the latest Prada bag, the perfect six-figure corporate job, or a Lamborghni to have a sense of purpose. Our culture fools us into thinking that our money should define our sense of status and professionalism in society. Your money does not define you, or enable you to do more than God has called you to. When we ultimately get to the end of this life and stand before God on judgement day, he will not care what material possessions we had on this earth. Allow your focus to be on God, not on being a woman of high economic status.
“It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God.” -Matthew 19:24
If you desire to be a powerful woman, become a woman after God’s own heart and pursue him continually for the rest of your days on this earth. Our society’s view of the ideal woman only beings temporary satisfaction until the next best thing comes along. Pursue divine righteousness over secular adoration. In closing, my beautiful sister in Christ, know your worth, believe you are beautiful, be a woman you are proud of, and never settle for anything less than God’s best for you.
The God of dance parties, ice cream, and coffee shops created YOU. Fall in love with God and I promise you’ll fall in love with life. Love you all -Maddie